“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
― Marilyn Monroe
Marilyn Monroe was was well known for her relationships with celebrities and famous personnel. She was quite often judged badly because if these accounts but she always carried herself with her head high and her heart filled with confidence. She believed that if you couldn't respect her for her insecurities and the mistakes she had made in life, then you definately did not deserve to be by her side when she was at her best point in life and was successful.
Yes, wanting to have someone you care about by your side when your life is looking great is a good feeling, but you should also want them to be there for you when your life is going down hill aswell. Being there for someone when they're the prettiest or making money is not as heart warming as you being there when they're not. It shows them that you arent using them for their success but that you are there for them being them. It lets them know that even if they did not have the fame and fortune you will still be there because you accept who they are and every little imperfection that they come with.
I've experienced, on several accounts, a situation in which a friend of mine (who I thought was a true friend) stopped talking to me because they realized my life is not all about dressing in the latest fashion trends. It hurt my feelings for a while but I quickly got over it because I realized I deserve someone who doesn't completely care about the material things and the good personality traits I have. I should be looking for a friend that accepts my sensitivity, low self confidence at times, and recognize that I have had my share of stupid mistakes.
Actor/songwriter Aubrey Graham, or Drake, once said in one of his songs , "Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin' with no make-up on. Thats when your the prettiest I hope that you dont take it wrong." To me, this lyric is related to what Marilyn Monroe said. Drake recognized that the woman he is talking about is pretty when shes in get finest garments and jewelry, but he also accepts her as she is when shes just relaxing with no artificial cover ups like make-up that "hide" her insecurities and flaws. Hes still by her side side no matter what and when she at her "worst" hes still going to maintain his ground.
Accept the ones you care about no matter what happens. Prove to them that your not going to disappear at the first sight of their flaws and insecurities but that you're going to be there for them in the long run. Dont let their bad qualities effect how you feel about them. Take them for who they are as a complete whole. The good, the bad and the ugly.
This quote really intrigued me. Mostly because this is all true. People usually judge based on matrialistic things and others mistakes. I myself can say I have passed judgement on people because of their mistakes but I have apologized for it because we all make them. By me judging them it only makes them feel worse about what they did or didn't do and I wouldn't want someone to make me feel that way. This passage was excellent, great job CharbreNe!
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post. It really interested me because situations happen like this happen pretty often. People judge you for what you look like-what you wear-and when they get to know the real you such as your personality, they might just stop talking to you because they were expecting something different. Or they might use you for what you have, you cant really trust people nowadays. But it happens,life comes with these situations.We learn to forget and move. We deserve the best people by our side,real and truthful people not materialistic fakes. Overall i really liked your post (: Please respond to my blog :P
ReplyDeleteI like this blog post, not only for the good quote choice or the style of diction used, but for the fact that it speaks a truth that can resonate with many people on many different levels. We have all had "friends" who we've stopped talking to because of differences in ideas. It's good to be your own person.
ReplyDeleteYou really acknowledge how some people focus their friendships on appearance and status, rather than personality. The quote you picked matched with everything you said. I appreciate that you added a bit of information behind the person you're quoting. Your personal account ties in well with this,because you are honest and this is a genuine account. It is very true we should care for the ones that accept our flaws, even the ones we can't change. There is such a contrast with how we're treated at our best and worst.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed this post and your quote :) It recognizes that if someone isn't there when you need them the most, they don't deserve you. Not only do they not deserve you but nor should you even want them there to begin with. Often relationships fail because they get into them when times are going smoothly and when things get tough, they cannot handle it and realize they are dealing with more than what they bargained for. Relationships can only work if you are there through the worst. Beauty, money, and success don't always last forever and if someone looks passed that, they are more than deserving.
ReplyDeleteI was very intereted in this blog post because of the quote and its topic. this was a good quote to choose because our world today is so extremely judgmental. our society also revolves around looks and the idea of being "popular".our world is way too materialistic and people should become more aware of it. It is also true that you should have relationships with people that are there for you even at your worst, not just someone who sticks around during the good times. your analysis of this quote was very strong and I can tell you have a deep understanding of the topic.
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